Thanks iThink for your rebuttal and giving me a chance to clarify; I wasn't sure if I was clear enough, hence the question at the end of my comment. Ch"vsh that I'm judging anyone's d'veikus or avodas Hashem. I did not mean any of it in any way to put anyone down. No one's avodas Hashem is worth less than anyone else's and it's not everyone's tafkid to sit in the BM all day. Everyone has their own special tachlis, and each person's is just as important as the others'. The "earner" is not worse than the "learner," they just approach their avodas Hashem different.
Yes, I am talking about a minority that has been exposed to very little outside the four walls of the BM and the lifestyle that comes with that. I'm talking about people who make it their business to do their ultimate best to never see preitzus, do their best to not listen to lashon hara, eat only the best of the best hechsherim (and probably never eat out for that reason among others), learn so many hours a day that they think in and dream learning, etc.
While no one (especially not I, nor was I attempting to) can ever ever judge someone's yiraas shamayim or connection to Hashem, this isn't about the value of the connection, it's about the reality of it. Someone who is doing this right (and I keep saying that because just because someone is sitting in the BM all day doesn't mean he's learning nor does it mean even if he is learning all day that he conducts himself like a ben Torah outside the BM) is inherently more focused, just via the nature of what he is amul in. It goes beyond this, but the Torah was written by G-d, and you get to know someone by reading what they've written. You make something your life's work, you end up thinking and breathing it. You cannot deny that if someone learns Hashem's will the entire day that his life has more focus. For example, this is why we ask a rav when we have a sheila. He is steeped in Torah, thus he is able to give an eitza coming from that vantage point.
No one can be lenient with regard to anyone's ruchniyus, but (as an example) is there not a difference in watching a movie with someone who has seen several movies in his lifetime versus someone who probably would never watch the movie if you didn't ask him to (and mostly what he has been exposed to is but the pages of his gemera)? I guess it's really never okay, but it's not you putting him there, he has already put himself in that place (for better or for worse).
Is this clearer or should I explain further?