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Esti

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Hi,
Just wanted a second opinion. A bunch of boys I dated that went more than two or three dates. They bring along games in their trunk. One time i asked them what's it all about? I mean i played with them but just never really got the point. So he told me that a rebbi usually suggests a game in order to loosen up the atmosphere/girl and you get to see the fun side of the person.
Is it just me but when was the last time anyone of us played a game and that brought out the fun side of a person?is it really fun? Does this happen to anyone else, or is it just me that's not loose and they have to loosen me up. I mean i probably dated alot more than any of these boys maybe its them who have to loosen up. Can someone please validate me??
p.s.- sorry for sounding so bitter but you know these things just bug me.

2funny

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IMHO, i think its totally wierd.

Bayla

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What type are you dating? It is quite odd..never really had that before..maybe once but a while ago. And yes, you are right..I think it's an old fashioned thing but this dating thing is just so awkward anyway. Supposedly it's too early to do something "fun" like bowling but to boring to just talk so they think this will help. BORING!

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rd

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Hi,
I don't think it's so weird at all. I've done it on dates and it made for a very relaxed and fun atmosphere.

Basically, the idea is that dates can be awkward- with forced conversation and all.

So the idea is that if you decide to play a game then you are not forced to make conversation- after all, you are busy playing the game.

In my experience it has worked well. Sometimes we needed a lighter date, because previous dates had become very heavy with deep discussions and we needed to lighten up and have fun.

And sometimes it was good because, as soon as the pressure was off, we all of a sudden (after we set up the game and started playing) found ourselves in the middle of a good discussion that just came up because we took the pressure off.

An added bonus to that was that we both realized that we enjoyed the discussion and didn't need/want to play the game, which was kinda cute.

Just my two cents...

heyhey

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looove games it makes it so much less awkward!

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rd

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I agree

Avigail

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btw: loaded question is a GREAT game! check it out here:
http://www.shopko.com/detail/publisher-services-inc-loaded-questions/36739?gclid=CLilkJbu-LQCFYqZ4AodlRUA9g
12 dollars at walmart i believe 😛

Avigail

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btw: loaded question is a GREAT game! check it out here:
http://www.shopko.com/detail/publisher-services-inc-loaded-questions/36739?gclid=CLilkJbu-LQCFYqZ4AodlRUA9g
12 dollars at walmart i believe 😛

cs22

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I feel that for me, I don't want someone who is going to play games with me, because marriage isn't a game. It's very serious. When playing a game, you can't talk to each othe about serious matters. It's more about what a good time we had playing the game. But that doesn't mean really anything at all.
My brother is a bit more modern than me, and that worked out fine, the girl-sho is now my sister-in-law, liked very much that he took her to places to play games-and then they'd sit and talk over an orange juice. But that was in New York, where that may be considered acceptable. But I live in Yerushalyim, and for me and my friends, it isn't done. Maybe playing games breaks the ice-so to speak, but it's just not done here. so that's that. We'll have to have some hard icy times sometimes I guess.

Bayla

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cs22, Just because it's not done it doesn't mean you can't do it. You don't think it would be nice to go to a park and play a game together? I know that before I was all against it that it wan't fun but now all the posts are convincing me that a lot of good comes out of it. My point is that just because its not done it doesn't mean you cant do it. So what do you do after date number three when you want to do something fun? The zoo maybe? Kosel? hmm

feigy123

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I've done it many times. It's totally normal, and a good idea.

Avigail

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That is so funny that you guys think it's a good idea. I can say without any reservations that my most awkward date was spent playing a game in a hotel lobby. I felt so out of place playing a board game in the middle of a hotel lobby! Can someone please explain to me where you go?

gold

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I think it depends on the game. Playing uno or rummikub is not really great for a date. The Loaded Questions game is a great game for dating. It is a game that has many different types of questions which you have to ask the other party and it brings about a lot of conversation. It is very conducive for a date because it prompts you to share many different aspects with the other person.
A good place to go with a game aside from a hotel lobby (avigayil: totally understand the awkwardness of playing a board game in a hotel lobby), is barnes & nobles, or a mall that has couches to sit on and that is not full of people.

cs22

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to Bayla: or better yet, a train ride to Beit Shemesh and walk around there-it's a long ride and plenty of time to talk

Smile91

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It's very normal to play games on a date, it definitely helps to relax ones nerves and to take away from the awkwardness. However, it is impt. to know what kind of games to play. Like Gold said rummikub is not a really grt. date for a game. I once went out with a guy and that's the game that he brought along (in addition to another game), while it definitely was fun and helped pass the time, we didn't get much talking done while playing. When I told my sister that when I came back-she's like how can you not talk on a date, I don't understand?! I was like we were so into the game....so yeh, the best kind of games are games that spark conversations-games with question cards and the like. But it definitely is a very normal dating activity and better than just sitting and talking in a hotel lobby, in my opinion.

dance4ever

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on: May 21, 2013, 10:47 PM

One common dating idea is to stop by a toystore and pick out a game together- then play it in a nearby hotel or s/t. Its funny- when i first started dating i did this a couple of times. Then I guess when the guys i date started getting older and dating longer, they started bringing along games...played in hotel lobbies, cafes, barnes of course, and even in the car!!

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on: September 28, 2013, 11:29 PM

I love games! And I have played them on dates and it really depends on the guy but it can be a lot of fun! Just because "marriage is not a game" does not mean you can't play games or have fun while you're dating. Think about it...when you get married, do you want your life to be completely serious and not have any fun any more? Being a mature adult does not mean giving up on fun. I once heard a rav say that the best sound you can hear in a home is the sound of laughter. It's so, so important to continue to have fun or else you will "burn out" of marriage. So start now, and develop that model in advance.

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