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Shaindy

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Post Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 10, 2013, 11:22 PM

I want to marry a learning boy because.......

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 10, 2013, 11:47 PM

.............most good boys are learning or at least it is hard to find one that's not!

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 1:46 AM

I want to be the one to earn the money, since whomever makes the money controls the house. I'm a control freak.

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 2:29 PM

....i love when boys learn its their biggest mitzvah. It helps them become the best they can. Torah is our guide for how to live the most productively. The more you study it and put it into action the better you become! And it makes H-shem so happy 😀

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 2:35 PM

Quote from feigy123 on June 11, 2013, 1:46 AM
I want to be the one to earn the money, since whomever makes the money controls the house. I'm a control freak.

Money doesnt and shouldnt control people. What happens if you go bankrupt? Then you "lose control"? People should just control themselves. It's not possible to control others. Only H-shem has total control over everything.

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 3:50 PM

Quote from feigy123 on June 11, 2013, 1:46 AM
I want to be the one to earn the money, since whomever makes the money controls the house. I'm a control freak.

lol

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 5:19 PM

All my friends are doing it.

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 6:42 PM

Quote from patcha on June 11, 2013, 3:50 PM

Quote from feigy123 on June 11, 2013, 1:46 AM
I want to be the one to earn the money, since whomever makes the money controls the house. I'm a control freak.

lol

Patcha what is funny about that?

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 6:49 PM

I think fiegy123 was joking 😉 she's not really a control freak or at least that's not the reason she wants a learning boy.

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 7:19 PM

Ok I hear but I still dont think its a funny joke... 😐

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 7:34 PM

A joke? How is self-determination a joke?

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 7:38 PM

Quote from basmelech on June 11, 2013, 6:42 PM

Quote from patcha on June 11, 2013, 3:50 PM

Quote from feigy123 on June 11, 2013, 1:46 AM
I want to be the one to earn the money, since whomever makes the money controls the house. I'm a control freak.

lol

Patcha what is funny about that?

I think it's actually an understandable reason to want to support the family. You just need to find a spouse who doesn't mind a control freak, or who can't be controlled. And that it's not so healthy when the girl is the one doing it, which is a good point that can be derived from what feigy said. That our system of women being primary breadwinners can cause a breakdown in the family.

I don't want to marry a boy "in learning", so I can't really comment on the rest of this thread.

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 7:44 PM

Another question are you Patcha and Faigy123 really good friends or the same person? 😉

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 7:59 PM

lol basmelech! Feigy's much smarter and funnier than me so we're definitely not the same person. I'm pretty sure none of the Feigy's I know in real life are our feigy123.

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 8:03 PM

Im still not convinced...

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 11, 2013, 8:17 PM

Hey, we are too the same person!

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 12, 2013, 6:15 AM

Quote from feigy123 on June 11, 2013, 8:17 PM
Hey, we are too the same person!

I can't find the red string on my toe, so maybe you're right. 🙂

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: June 12, 2013, 2:53 PM

Quote from lukshenkugel on June 10, 2013, 11:47 PM
.............most good boys are learning or at least it is hard to find one that's not!

What does good boy mean???

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: November 21, 2013, 7:16 AM

Quote from basmelech on June 11, 2013, 2:29 PM
....i love when boys learn its their biggest mitzvah. It helps them become the best they can. Torah is our guide for how to live the most productively. The more you study it and put it into action the better you become! And it makes H-shem so happy 😀

I'm sure you didn't mean it this way, but there is no such thing as "making Hashem happy". Hashem is not a person and therefore He doesn't have emotions. We don't do mitzvos to "make Him happy", but to do His will (not the same thing). He doesn't need anything from us because He is perfect and lacks nothing. Whenever the Torah attributes an emotion to Him (e.g. anger, jealousy) it is only metaphorical because we wouldn't be able to understand otherwise.

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: January 13, 2014, 12:55 PM

Quote from iThink on June 11, 2013, 5:19 PM
All my friends are doing it.

How incredibly sad.

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: January 13, 2014, 6:36 PM

I'm pretty sure iThink was joking 😉 but if she wasn't, then yes that is very sad...

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: January 13, 2014, 8:22 PM

I agree that to marry a boy in learning because your friends are doing it, is very sad.
You need to think for yourself! I know that some people have a hard time thinking for themselves but, it is very important!
If you want to get married- I am sure most good learning boys would want a girl that values their torah learning as opposed to girl that wants a "learning boy" because her friends are marrying that. There are plenty of good working boys out there too and if that is what you would relate to more, then, don't be afraid to say that - even if your friends have taken a different path. I strongly believe that marriage is a life decision and don't base it upon what your friends are doing...DO what is best for YOU!

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: January 14, 2014, 9:31 PM

I know she was (probably) joking. But how can you say, "I hope to marry a boy who is committed to XYZ and link my life to his forever and ever as partners in life...because my friends are doing it." That's not funny! Not even as a joke!

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: January 20, 2014, 11:12 AM

Keshet, aliza- FTR I was kidding.

pray today

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Post Re: Marrying A Learning Boy
on: January 21, 2014, 9:02 PM

Quote from iThink on January 20, 2014, 11:12 AM
Keshet, aliza- FTR I was kidding.

OMG Ithink I haven't seen you in a looong time 😛 welcome back!!

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