ok...I'm not sure I was as clear as I thought I was for my theory:
By putting another person first and davening for their (same) problem to be fixed with the same intensity that we daven for our own, Hashem looks at us and says "see how special my childen are? They are going through things but they are asking that their friend should have their issue resolved!"
So that is the theory: you daven for someone else, and Hashem can't help but answer you first because now you deserve it.
Feigy123: The example you described:
Shprintzy really is very sad and hurt that she is not married yet. Getting married is a basic human need, and she is human and basically needs it. She davens and davens, and is still single.
Then she reads a chazal that says that if she davens for Feigy, that she--Shprintzy--will be answered first! So she quickly starts davening for Feigy, SO that she can be answered first.
Is Shprintzy being selfless by davening for Feigy, or even more selfish by davening for Feigy?
As I explained, if a person is davening SINCERELY and with the SAME INTENSITY for their friend in need as if they are davening for themselves - with no ulterior motive, then Hashem will answer their tefillos first. (Again, if they believe that this chazal is real and they are doing it sincerely)
iThink: that's a very important question.
Does this mean that if someone is davening for me for a specific yeshua as a zchus for themselves to get the same, that I'm put on a "waiting list" for this yeshua until they are zoche to it first?
I think the answer is that you shouldn't be thinking, worrying and/or relying about what another person's tefillos are doing for you. Everyone is judged on their own merits and there is a Master Plan.