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Sari

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Can someone find a source for the 40 days straight?
A friend of mine told me that her whole family was mekabel to say Shir ha-shirim for 40 days straight and soon after she was a kallah? (not day 41 though..)
What about 40 days straight at the kosel...my friends brother went to israel for the elul zman and stayed till after sukkos and went everyday inc. yom kippur and he's still not engaged...
So what should you say...when..same time everyday...please help

Bayla

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The first four segulas are from Sefer HaMidos.

1) Say Shiras Hayam (Az Yashir) with kavanah.

2) Kiddush Levana – the hint to this is לבנה is the first letters of ב׳תולה נ׳שאת ל׳יום ה׳רביעי a maiden gets married on the fourth day. (Note: Kiddush Levana is only said by men)

3) Regularly reading the Korbanos of the Neseim (in Parshas Naso)

4) Through tefila, it is possible to change the match that was announced in Heaven.

5) A segula to find a proper shidduch is to say at the end of Shemonah Esrei, before יהיו לרצון, these two pesukim from Mishleiמָצָא אִשָּׁה מָצָא טוֹב וַיָּפֶק רָצוֹן מֵד׳ (יח,כב) and בַּיִת וָהוֹן נַחֲלַת אָבוֹת וּמֵד׳ אִשָּׁה מַשְׂכָּלֶת(יט,יד) and after that a tefila to find a good shidduch. (Dor Yeshorim, heard from Reb Avrohom Yehoshua Heschel of Radzin in the name of Reb Gershon Chanoch Henoch of Radzin)

6) Whoever says Tehilim 121 at the end of all the tefilos, before stepping back, will find a good shidduch. Also, ask for mercy for Zivug Elyon, and you will be answered first. (The last statement, according to my understanding is that one should pray for a match for lofty reasons as opposed to materialistic reasons.) (Igra D'Pirka in the name of Asara Mamaros) The source for saying Tehilim 121 is a Medrash that says Yaakov Avinu said this, praying to find his match. The first posuk says "From where will my helper (meaning wife) come?" And the next posuk says "My help will come from Hashem".

7) One who is looking for a shidduch should say the following chapters of Tehilim: 32, 38, 70, 71, 124 (Segulas Yisroel)

8) I have heard that certain tzadikim would instruct people to give 26 dollars (or $2.60 or 26 cents if they don't have the means, 26 is the gematria of yud-kei-vav-kei) to Hachnosas Kallah as a segula. This is also done by women before lighting Shabbos candles every week (could be done in the smaller denominations). (I don't have an exact source, though it seems self explanatory.)

I still don't know where the 40 day source thing is but I will keep looking..the above was pasted from http://zchusavos.blogspot.co.il/2007/06/segulas-for-shidduchim.html

Miriam

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Thanks Bayla, I found your info. really helpful.

Esti

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Just remember after reading all these Segulas that there is one person in charge and to believe that your shidduch can only come about if HE wills it. That belief alone should be enough to help us discover our true life partner at the right time.

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on: February 4, 2014, 4:08 PM

Quote from Esti on November 19, 2012, 8:46 AM
Just remember after reading all these Segulas that there is one person in charge and to believe that your shidduch can only come about if HE wills it. That belief alone should be enough to help us discover our true life partner at the right time.

I agree. Except that Hashem is not a person.

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on: February 4, 2014, 11:15 PM

Hashem is referred to as Ish in the Torah etc. We call Him, He. We do refer to Him as a person. Otherwise, we would call Him It if He can't be referred to as a person.

chaykie

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on: February 5, 2014, 8:38 AM

well it could be 40 because 40 is the number associated with creation (i heard from amit yaghoubi on torahanytime- don't remember which speech tho, i can look it up). so that's why like 40 days before a baby is born his/her zivug is decided (creation of a family), we spent 40 yrs in desert and waited 40 days for luchos- cuz we were being created as a new nation- a nation of Hashem, mabul was 40 days and nights, Hashem kind of recreated mankind.

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