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thinkingBY-
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Post That One Date
on: February 10, 2013, 8:07 PM

A seed was planted in her mind;
It began to germinate.
A name, a suggestion…
Would it end up in a date?

How long does it take
For a guy to look into you?
I guess giving him a resume
Just means a place in his queue.

A stack full of resumes,
A really long list.
All she just wants to know
Will he accept or dismiss?

Why does he call the references,
But say nothing to the shadchan?
A simple “no” would suffice,
And then they can be done.

Instead, he takes his time,
Simultaneously looking into many prospectives,
Trying to make use of his time
Most effective.

Yet, when he decides on a girl
He wants to date,
Three days, up to a week if you’re lucky,
That’s all he wants to wait.

The girl waits so long
While he makes up his mind,
But once he has decided,
She must respond in kind.

So after much checking,
They agree to meet.
The girl is all excited
For her chance in the hot seat.

Getting ready for a date –
Hair, makeup, and the rest,
Mental preparation,
She’s just a little stressed.

At long last he arrives,
Shmoozes with the parents and then is ready to go.
What happens next -
After the first hello?

When it’s apparent after five minutes
That they’re just not a pair,
There’s nothing that can change that
Not even the shadchan’s hot air.

And that’s that
Even after the long wait and the anticipation,
The hope that bloomed
From the initial evaluation.

So much invested
To just make this one date take place.
It ends up being nothing
But a wild goose chase.

It’s frustrating and annoying,
But this is how it’s done.
No one ever said
Shidduchim is fun.

Every date though is hishtadlus
That goes into the pot.
It brings the right one closer,
Whether we can feel it or not.

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on: February 10, 2013, 8:55 PM

Wow!!!! i really like this one!!!

dancer90

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Post Re: That One Date
on: February 10, 2013, 9:07 PM

u hit it on the botton!! great job!

Bracha613

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Post Re: That One Date
on: February 11, 2013, 3:13 PM

Oh wow what a nice surprise waiting for me! Thank You!

thinkingBY-
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on: February 11, 2013, 7:04 PM

Yw! 🙂 Any other suggestions of ideas you guys want to see in a poem?

gold

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on: February 11, 2013, 8:07 PM

Really nice poem-can really relate to this one:)

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on: February 11, 2013, 8:40 PM

Quote from thinkingBYgirl on February 11, 2013, 7:04 PM
Yw! 🙂 Any other suggestions of ideas you guys want to see in a poem?

abt people saying "no" cuz of reasons that arent really important just cuz "why should they say yes to one girl if they have another girl that looks exactly the same, but doesn't have that "flaw"....
it just really bothers me...

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on: February 11, 2013, 10:07 PM

abt people saying "no" cuz of reasons that arent really important just cuz "why should they say yes to one girl if they have another girl that looks exactly the same, but doesn't have that "flaw"....
it just really bothers me...

Hmmm...how do you really know why people say no? The reason they may tell someone (of why they're rejecting a name) is not necessarily the real reason. I think people make a decision based on an overall feeling -- good or bad. Do you disagree?

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on: February 11, 2013, 10:48 PM

thinkingBYgirl: that may be the case sometimes, but i def see people saying no for specific reasons (or at least it seems that way...)
just continued it in different post titled: "Just cuz shes not PERFECT?!?!?!?!"
tell me if you agree

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on: February 12, 2013, 7:17 PM

love the poem...
exactly what we all feel
thanks 4 sharing

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on: February 12, 2013, 7:19 PM

Quote from thinkingBYgirl on February 11, 2013, 7:04 PM
Yw! 🙂 Any other suggestions of ideas you guys want to see in a poem?

yes how about that "its the boy's right of refusal"
girls are told and willing to go out for a second or third and the boys just simply say not "its not shayach" or "it didnt click" or "i don't think this will go anywhere"

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on: February 12, 2013, 8:43 PM

how about that "its the boy's right of refusal" girls are told and willing to go out for a second or third and the boys just simply say not "its not shayach" or "it didnt click" or "i don't think this will go anywhere"

Yeah, what's that about? For a boy, it's "Mind as well go on to the next on the list if it's not 'love at first sight'," while with girls it's, "Well, how much longer do you want to be single? If he likes you, just marry him." K, when I get a chance, I'll write something about this...

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on: April 25, 2013, 12:46 PM

Don't knows how I missed this one; I thought I'd read all your poems. Just noticed it today and wanted to tell you that besides for the fact that it's written beautifully there is a special beauty in reading something so relatable. Thank you for sharing!

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on: April 25, 2013, 1:42 PM

Thank you, and you're welcome!

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on: April 25, 2013, 6:54 PM

wow, ouch so true!! and sharp!! totally could relate.

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