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thinkingBY-
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How long am I meant to, in this circuitous labyrinth, wander?
Accompanied by many questions to contemplate and ponder.

Why meet so many people I am not meant to know,
John Doe after John Doe after John Doe after John Doe?

Why like people I can’t be friends with, be fascinated by someone I’m supposed to forget about?
How can I not get emotionally involved, not form a connection, and just keep going out?

Can I miss someone I’m not supposed to like?
Can I like someone I’m not supposed to miss?

Why form a relationship, a connection, to then part ways and never speak thenceforth?
It begs the question of, how much was it really truly worth?

These are not just items at an auction, but real individuals that I date.
I’m an empathetic people person, how can I not, to these guys, relate?

Why do I feel bad to be the one to ultimately say no,
Even if it is in the end an undeniable definite no-go?

Why is it that some guys seem to think that getting along is enough?
Even when hashkafos don’t match up, why does the no come as an unexpected rebuff?

Perhaps my feelings are too acute, too real, to be successful in this game.
Or am I just seeking something concrete, for my heartache, to blame?

Will these feelings stand me in good stead when the right one comes along?
Or is the emotional investment a sign that I’m doing something wrong?

Is there a method to the madness; a reason for the curse?
Perhaps an easier way through this parsha to traverse?

Why does this system feel so fake?
To me, it’s quite hazy and opaque.

Does it protect me; make me better off in some sense?
Is it, in some way, a protection of defense?

So much to cogitate and to ponder,
As I continue to, in this labyrinth, wander.

d-e1-9

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You are really a fountain of poetry. Each poem expresses your feelings so beautifully. You really portray how such much of life is grey and not black and white.

Esther

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You are so talented! 🙂 You speak a lot about feeling like you invest so much into a relationship, only to never be in it again. The only times I have felt this way were after dating someone for a very long time. I think it's important to not invest too many emotions in the beginning. First see if it can go anywhere. Then go deeper.

thinkingBY-
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Thanks, and thanks for the advice. 🙂 I don't think I invest too much emotion in earlier stages of dating relationships for this reason, but I guess I relate to people easily so even if it's not emotional investment per se, it's still about getting to know someone and then not ever speaking to him again. I have had a few semi-long dating stints, and that is mostly where this comes from; it makes good poetry! I refuse to be cynical about dating, so I approach each guy with a 'this might be the one' attitude. Maybe this is where I'm doing something wrong? Idk, but I feel like something doesn't have a chance unless you invest in it...

Esther

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Quote from thinkingBYgirl on February 2, 2013, 8:40 PM
it's still about getting to know someone and then not ever speaking to him again.

This is what bothers me the most about dating!

Bayla

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Did you really write this? I hope you always write! You are so super talented wow!!! Anyway, as said above by Esther that is the problem. You invest so much in trying to make it work by getting to know the person and then goodbye. I have always found the hardest part to be that you tell him all about yourself..your feelings..what ticks you..what makes you happy..what keeps you going..how you really feel about your friends/jobs/siblings..and then goodbye. You never see him again. Here he is walking around knowing your deepest secrets. Not really that cuz we don't tell him too much but even just a little bit about ourselves is enough! It's so awkward..then if you run into him again..well that's really strange! Been there done that..any of you??

dancer90

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yes its very hard to open up to a complete stranger and take a chance of getting your heart ripped out and shattered 🙁
but just remember "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"!!!

heyhey

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LOVE IT!! can i read it on my date tomorrow night?

thinkingBY-
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Go for it! G'luck on your date...we're rooting for you. 🙂

iThink

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on: February 13, 2013, 12:22 AM

Will these feelings stand me in good stead when the right one comes along?

Oh yes they will! I've just signed up today here but from the few of your posts that I've read I can tell that you have a pretty awesome way of getting ppl and connecting to them. May Hashem send you your guy soon and may you connect with him on the deepest possible level.
Beautiful poem BTW

thinkingBY-
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on: February 13, 2013, 12:30 AM

Amen! and thanks for the validation 🙂

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