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I may be a dater,
But I needn’t be a “wait-er.”
I won’t let life pass me by
While I await my proper guy.

I can get caught up living for the future,
But I need to realize the present can be super.
When I fantasize about that day to come,
To the moment I am numb.
I fail to recognize the good in the second,
As my future happiness beckons.

Even though I am single,
My life can still assume a twinkle.
There’s so much good I can miss,
Because most of it I dismiss
When I think life starts after I meet him,
And before then all is grim.

Though the in-between stage can be hard,
I won’t play the sympathy card.
Dating may not be fun,
Yet it’s part and parcel of this run.
Feeling left out is another trial of this stage,
Waiting to join all my friends who’ve turned the page.

Yet, I won’t compare myself to all those who’ve moved on,
To those who have down the aisle gone.
Only my reality plays a part here,
My reasons for wanting to move on are truly sincere.

I’ve got to ride the waves, the ups and downs,
Realizing it’s okay to smile and to frown.
It’s a challenge, I won’t deny,
Playing this game I want to defy.

But it’s my reality you see,
Only when I accept it can I be free.
When I relinquish my pseudo control,
I can better understand my role.
G-d is the One in charge,
To succeed, my trust in Him I must recharge.

As painful as this parsha is,
I know it’s a nisayon, a quiz.
G-d is the diamond cutter, and the diamond is I,
This process is to make me more beautiful thereby.

Although, as much as I trust in G-d and live in the moment,
Getting married is still a big proponent.
Yet, just because I am dater,
I refuse to be a wait-er.

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This is an amazing poem. I love the way you describe your feeling so well. Feelings are real. They don't have to make logical sense. They just are. You are so right that a person has to live in the moment.

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Thanks!

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I love it!

Esther

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Wow! You are really talented! I love how you expressed so many real and true points in such a cute way! Got anymore good poems?

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COOL! did you just make this up?

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Thanks guys! Yups, it's an original work. 😉 Working on some more...

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I don't believe this..send it in to some something..I don't know! You are able to express your feelings and those of so many of us so well!!! Thank you..and lets spread this around!

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🙂 I'm taking suggestions for more topics to write something about. If I can relate to it, I'll write about it for you guys.

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waiting so long for a date and then it being horrible
feeling like maybe I should be giving up on things that I feel are important, just so I can get a date.

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bracha i can definitley relate to you!! i always go back and forth in my head and wonder if maybe Hashem has something else in mind for me since the kind of guy i want doesnt show up. its such a helpless feeling. what do you do??

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Good stuff, Bracha613. I'll post when I have something on it.

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Quote from Bracha613 on February 3, 2013, 8:37 PM
waiting so long for a date and then it being horrible
feeling like maybe I should be giving up on things that I feel are important, just so I can get a date.

good idea. something like this!

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Quote from dancer90 on February 3, 2013, 9:11 PM
bracha i can definitley relate to you!! i always go back and forth in my head and wonder if maybe Hashem has something else in mind for me since the kind of guy i want doesnt show up. its such a helpless feeling. what do you do??

Yup - I definitely know the feeling! When this happens I take out my good 'ol list of what I want and what I need in a boy, and make sure I'm focusing on the needs not wants. This usually helps clarify things. 😮 Hatzlacha!

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Quote from Bracha613 on February 3, 2013, 8:37 PM
feeling like maybe I should be giving up on things that I feel are important, just so I can get a date.

Check out my new poem "Realistic Expectations?". This one's for you!

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on: February 10, 2013, 8:07 PM

Quote from Bracha613 on February 3, 2013, 8:37 PM
waiting so long for a date and then it being horrible

K, Bracha613, new poem "That One Date" for you!

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on: February 10, 2013, 10:44 PM

where is it? how do we read it?

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on: February 10, 2013, 10:44 PM

where is it? how do we read it?

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on: February 10, 2013, 10:59 PM

Forum » Inspiration » Original Writings » That One Date

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on: February 11, 2013, 12:54 AM

thnking BY girl:
thanks so much!!!

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on: February 11, 2013, 8:07 PM

Quote from thinkingBYgirl on January 28, 2013, 6:53 PM

G-d is the diamond cutter, and the diamond is I,
This process is to make me more beautiful thereby.

i love these lines!!! so profound! 🙂

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