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basmelech

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on: May 12, 2013, 3:30 AM

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Cherry

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on: May 12, 2013, 3:47 AM

If he's boring u.. You have to ask yourself why is he boring? You may be finding him boring because he or you don't feel comfortable enough to open up enough to create a flowing easy conversation. If he can't bring himself to open up after the first few dates there's def compatibility questioning you need to ask yourself. Def seek advice and speak it out with someone u trust and look up to.
If he wants to wear a shtriemel it's more than likely that there are other minhagim that are not in sync with your hashkafas.

iThink

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on: May 12, 2013, 12:12 PM

I see two issues here: the chasidish issue, and the "boring" issue.

I am specifically referring to this as a "chasidish" (vs. shtreimel) issue because there are many differences in your backgrounds that I can't tell if you thought about. I don't know how chasidish the family is, but it's safe to assume that you will be dealing with many changes besides for the shtreimel. Have you looked into these changes and for some reason got stuck on the shtreimel issue?

I can't tell from your post if you meant that the conversation was boring, or the idea of sitting in a room with no distractions was boring. Is it the boy or the beshow?

basmelech

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on: May 12, 2013, 3:18 PM

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iThink

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on: May 12, 2013, 6:15 PM

Okay, because you asked I'm gonna take the liberty to tell you exactly what I think. You're confused and you gotta find someone to help you figure out what's happening. And based on the "Too short between dates" thread, things are happening way too fast for you to even think them through clearly. Please, please find a mentor or someone wise enough to help you figure things out. Hashem give you the clarity and peace of mind to make the right decision.

basmelech

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on: May 12, 2013, 9:03 PM

Amen! Thank you! 🙂 Yes your right I do really need to find a mentor, thank you for pointing that out. Hey, did you ever think about becoming a dating mentor? 😉

iThink

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on: May 12, 2013, 10:32 PM

You're very welcome, anytime!

About the dating mentor, maybe one day.... 🙂

basmelech

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on: May 19, 2013, 1:51 AM

🙂 Thanks for your advice iThink!

Aviva B
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on: May 30, 2013, 3:44 PM

Basmelech,
I don't know if you've resolved this issue by this point in time, but I was going to give some feedback anyway, but couldn't see the original post, only the responses. If you still want feedback, feel free to repost or open a new thread.

All the best,
Aviva

basmelech

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on: May 30, 2013, 4:51 PM

Thank you I really appreciate it. The problem (i think) is resolved already. 🙂

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on: June 3, 2013, 3:25 AM

Glad to hear it, basmelech. Hope it gave you some tools for the future.

basmelech

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on: June 3, 2013, 2:36 PM

Thank you! Hope so too! 😉

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